Men’s mental health has been increasingly spoken about in recent years which is most definitely a step in the right direction. We are more aware than ever of the shocking suicide statistics and the fact that 75% of the lives lost to suicide are male. In trying to justify the gender bias of suicide deaths, we hear a lot about how men don’t talk; don’t ask for help; don’t speak about how they’re feeling; don’t unburden themselves. This is done in attempt to try and reverse the narrative and encourage guys to open up but is it actually having the desired effect?

Safety in numbers

Lets look at our primal make-up. As troop animals we feel safe when we are accepted as part of the group. It feels comforting and reassuring to be part of a majority. Nobody wants to be an outlier, on the outside looking in … it makes us feel vulnerable.

One black duck amongst several yellow ducks

Not being part of the majority can make us feel very vulnerable

With that in mind, are guys more inclined to continue tight-lipped about their mental health simply because they hear that is what the majority are doing? No matter how much you might discourage them from this course of action/inaction and what risks it might bring, the fact the majority are seen as operating this way might be what is keeping people from making a change.

An alternative narrative for men’s mental health

Maybe we need to put more of a spotlight on to what people are doing when it comes to men’s mental health. Not what they’re not doing? Instead of focussing on how many men aren’t talking, highlighting just how many men are talking and getting help might be the way forward. We need to hear more about it instead of just having how much men don’t talk rammed down our throats.

A recent study by The Priory found that the MAJORITY (60%) of men HAVE shared their feelings about mental health with someone at some point. That isn’t really shouted about though. In fact, the headline of the article leads with, “40% of men won’t talk about their mental health”. Focussing on the negative aspect and potentially keeping men stuck.

If you are finding it a struggle you need to know you are definitely not an outlier. 77% of men suffer common mental health symptoms of feeling anxious, stressed and depressed. This THE VAST MAJORITY! So let’s celebrate and highlight those that are leading the way when it comes to men’s mental health and are talking.

Some encouraging numbers

4000 men every week attend the fantastic Andy’s Man Club UK-wide network of support groups.

100s more attend similar local initiatives up and down the country. Google local men’s support groups in my area to find what’s available to you.

72% of our clients are men – have a read of some recent reviews from them.

9 benefits to men's mental health of talking

The benefits felt by men who have talked to LINKS Wellness

Do more men need to talk? Yes, absolutely but lets get away from this myth that men don’t talk at all because a hell of a lot are doing and feeling the benefits of doing so.

If you want to be one of them then why not have a look at our full range of affordable therapy options, including our £20/month pay-as-you-go therapy membership.

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Founder of Links Wellness CBT Practitioner/Mindset Specialist